Continuing with Correspondence or Oy Vey!

The newest email I have received:

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omg Ian
wtf r you talking about? seriously. LOOK, i'm gonna spell it out for
ya crystal clear, because, apparently you're more oblivious and
ignorant than i thought. THE POINT IS: you breached confidence by
spreading my thoughts, not yours to tell, to others that could have,
POTENTIALLY, been harmed by the nature of said comments. PLEASE IAN,
knock your head up against a wall or something, and cease with this
lame pathetic blaming of others. YOU fucked up. deal with it. all i
wanted was, "i'm sorry, i shouldn't have relayed those confidential
comments to others. my fault." something like that? too much to ask?
really Ian, get a clue.

RM

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So I responded with:

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Reading something and understanding something don't always go hand in hand do they?

I will make the baisc point of what I have said as clear as possible:

You are getting pissed off because I relayed something that was possibly inflamatory around to others. Based on your personality and how you are perceived by others I did not think that the comments you made WERE inflamatory. The reactions received prove this fact.

I won't bother re-explaining the rest.

Ian

ps
Where have I blamed others anywhere? Since the beginning I have assumed responsibilty for this and have already said what you seem to think I haven't said. But since this is only going to continue on in a futile circle...

"i'm sorry, i shouldn't have relayed those confidential comments to others. my fault."

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I knew that this would continue on until he heard what he wanted to hear and no amount of attempts to create a dialogue on the root causes and perceived effects of this type of thing was going to work. I stll stand where I stood on this from the beginning. He says stuff like this all the time and word gets around very quickly. The only difference here is that he found out. He also constantly says stuff like this to people's faces (I assume inadvertently). I attempted to enlighten him on why people merely passed this off as a common occurrence for him, but he would not hear it. In his mind this particular prick-comment was worthy of being kept confidential. I guess I didn't think that this statement was something that was out of the ordinary and thus worthy of remaining a secret. I am not removing myself from blame nor have I been anywhere in my emails. What I have said was that had I known that this was somehow considered something to be kept secret I would have, but based on Ryan's history I didn't see how it was.
On another note, Bill Murray didn't win the best actor Oscar and "Triplets of Belleville" did not win the best animated feature award. Not having seen "Mystic River" I can't be a fair judge of Sean Penn's role in the movie, but from all accounts the academy is more rewarding him for past roles that should have earned him the award (Dead man Walking). The Oscars always do shit like this... they slight someone the year they deserve it only to give them the award later on to "make up" for it. Al Pacino for "Scent of a Woman" , Denzel Washington for "Training Day" , Paul Newman for "The Color of Money" , Peter Jackson for "Return of the King", etc. Here's a thought, give them the award for the movie/role that they most deserve it for. Although at this point the academy is so far behind that they will never get to the year when they can do that. From what I hear, unless something crazy happens, Bill Murray will win next year for the new Wes Anderson movie. Even if it's really good, it will probably pale to the nuanced and deeply touching role he did in "Lost in Translation." Oh yeah.... I just want it to be known that I do not watch the Academy Awards. I only find out the winners via the newspaper the next day (or in this case, the internet). Oh yeah, another thing... "Finding Neemo" was such a lame and safe choice for best animated feature. Next time reward something that hasn't been done a zillion times before (story wise) and give it to something different that stretches what common perceptions of animation are. I guess last year was just a fluke when they gave it to "Spirited Away." Then again, it DID have the Disney machine behind it... and what was it against... "Ice Age, Spirit, Treasure Planet, and Lilo and Stitch" not exactly "good" films. So to NOT give it to "Spirited Away" would have been the crime...
Oh well I don't really care anyway... just thought you might like to hear what I think.... oh wait... I don't care if you want to hear it...it's MY blog, I'll write what I want! No one is forcing you to read it.... yet...